It’s important to deal with our ‘demons’ (problems) before they get bigger and complex. When they begin they have be really simple. However they grow as they become interlinked with other issues or reinforced with thoughts. Don’t let these sorts of problems have control over you and deal with them at the root. Also don’t think about them being around you attached to you, but within you think about the strength you have to overcome and change. Don’t let external issues like this hold you down.
You may have felt before the sensation holding in feelings that really need to be released but not knowing how exactly. It’s not as simple as just letting go. It’s like a big tangled up rope that is secured and held down at many points.
To target these sorts of things its usually a long term process. It is important though to have a ‘positive’ (i.e. for change) mindset about this. Also understanding how your feelings and thoughts and linked. The other thing to consider is to target these issues at the root. Overtime you may realise you had problems or issues you never thought you had so it’s never so simple and you have to approach these things at multiple angles. These sorts of things also exist at multiple levels so it is also complex in that sense.
Exchanges continously happen in life between people or things. People give and take all the time. When we buy things for example this is quite an obvious form of exchange represented through money. Gift giving is another. Also when friends help each other though not always equally. There are other examples however relating to how we take things in the enviroment and how we give back though unfortunately people often take too much.
Even breathing is a form of exchange. It is important to see how interlinked everything really is and I think if more people recognised this then we would treat the enviroment better.
I’ve decided that it would be a good idea for me to try and drop certain activities and try to focus on what I really want to do. I want to think about what I do and try more new things out. So when I do stuff I guess I will try to put more focus and energy in. Sometimes it’s kind of scary to try new things, but I know it can be a really good thing to broaden your mind. (one of the themes of this blog is broadness).
Being near the horizon
Howling into darkness
Nobody can hear you
what you mean
We’ve met our limit
There is no way forward
No more to see
No way past the Horizon
(Note: This is experimental and not proven, it is there to make you think please don’t just take these words as they are. thanks.)
To identify past traumas firstly you need to find out where in which time period it is located and what it is associated with. So first roughly figure out what things happened, why, how you felt who was involved etc. Try to untangle your feelings from it and try to look at all the associated events or emotions that came after or before it. Try to identify when you first felt like how you felt and whether it got worse or not. Things like this are complicated and may affect you at many levels which may not be apparent at first. Identifying conflicts within yourself might be another hint into uncovering past feelings.
You can take the approach of unwinding events through time like a video tape to try and get a sense of what happened. It is important not to attach yourself to these things and see them as not you but events and experiences you went through. This is very important. Don’t try to hold anything too close to you, its important to let go of the past sometimes. Once you identify the problems involved you are on the way to solving it. It’s not easy but questioning the feelings kind of like certain methods taken from CBT can help. Try to let the emotions naturally release if possible. Using affirmations can be good as long as you aren’t just saying things emptily this can be a useful. There are some other methods too that are very good potentially better than I might go over later on, I will mention however that methods using hypnosis or reprogramming at a behavioural but not inner level will not be useful and are potentially harmful. Also some methods are very unbalanced and by only look at one aspect of you issues while avoiding another. Some neutralisation by opposite methods are good but potentially if used badly could be harmful in a sort of way as being too much of a quick easy method. Its important to not rely on one method and use several.
Often in many ways rigidity is promoted a lot and a distancing to creativity. My view is a fear or just inability of the mixing of things, for example gender stereotypes are often used to categorise opposites. The bible also for example forbids hybrids. Things are kept separate and binary. People see in black and white and so only one or the other. Things can’t randomly come together and interrelate. Things are seen through differences rather than similarities.
Its hard not to succumb to the idea of solid categories which are kept separate from each other. You think a chair is for sitting on but you forget, maybe there are other uses? Could it be there to make a sculpture or a fort? Or maybe you could make a chair that is also a table. Its important also to experiment and look for new things or new uses.
It is hard when repeatedly creativity is stifled by forcing you into a box or mold so you can’t grow in certain directions and your mind set becomes more narrow and less here and there.